Hi all! Well, I have to say that it’s been a challenging work week and my attention to the social game in the blogosphere has had to take a back seat. Like any good back seat driver though instructions and opinion were barked at me from the back of my mind. It’s never quiet or serene back there.
Suffice it to say traffic has been off and engagement has been pretty much nonexistent.
I did, however, get to read a few very, very interesting pieces that have generated a ton of great interaction and some pretty juicy back and forth between the bloggers and their readers. Great examples of what to do.
That got me to thinking about the idea of respect (c’mon the link is obvious) and what that means not only in the on-line spaces but out there IRL.
How do think the best way is to gain respect from your friends, tribe, team or company?
So, then, how do YOU define respect? What does it mean to you?
It is likely very different for you than it is for me so I will simply let you in on how my mind processes that idea.
To me I feel I am respected when people understand that I am human, want to listen to what I have to offer, don’t berate me for making a mistake and allow me my point of view without provocation or dissension.
Anything to the contrary, from the people I know, is not respect.
FACT: Respect is something that cannot be demanded.
I am quite sure most of you will agree that it has to be earned especially from those that you don’t know.
So how do I expect to earn yours?
After all, you don’t give it out like candy on Halloween.
- Do I make you feel good?
- Make sure not to be a push over or fan boy?
- Do I ask about how you are?
- Be genuinely interested?
Is it that simple?
- It’s like dating 101.
- Schmoozing 101.
- Know your stuff before you talk 101.
- Social 101.
So, here we are in the big ole world wondering how we are going to be respected for what we do.
- Is it bitching because you didn’t get your way? No sir.
- Is it sulking or sucking up? Naaaa.
- How about setting unrealistic expectations.Un-uh. Fogettaboudit.
- Do we even try demanding it? Yeah, right.
Ok, so those ideas are off the table.
- How about doing what you do well?
- How about having an open mind?
- How about treating people the way you want to be treated?
- How about using your ability to help someone and not expect them to reciprocate?
- How about standing your ground even if its not popular?
- How about fighting for your right to be an individual?
- How about accepting people for who they are?
I can go on and on but you know what to do.
MAKE. THEM. FEEL.
Make them feel:
- Like they know more than you.
Let’s count the ways we can.
- Ask them how they would solve a problem.
- Listen to them when they talk to you.
- Understand their point of view.
- Find out something about them.
- Ask them to share their goals.
- Try it their way.
- Offer them constructive criticism if they ask.
- Ask before you impart your wisdom.
- Share something unconditionally.
There you go. Consider those the minimum requirements.
You know what to do.
Make them feel.
So, how do YOU feel?
Let me leave you with this.