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Is FOCUS the most important word? Ever.

I am running out of time to write.

It’s a battle…..battle…..battlefield. Ha…..hahahaha……

The competition is huge!

It’s summer and the desire to be outside is dominating my attention. The weekends are packed with activity which is fantastic but it has taken a lot of my attention away from writing. The Olympics are on, right now, and are, as expected, also a distraction. Golf is always on my mind. The cottage is also on my mind and vacationing is taking some serious attention away from my other personal pursuits.

Like this blog.

This is my first full summer in the blogging world but it just seems so lame to even consider the pull of summer activity as a new thing to distract me from my work.

What am I? Fifteen years old?

I have been working for 27 years in the Architecture and Design industry and have seen the ebb and flow of business as the seasons pass many, many times. I know full well the whole world slows down over the summer months especially over August. Just today we were having a conversation in the office about how there seems like there is so little going on around town. Even the rush hour traffic is almost non-existent.

Where the heck is everyone?

Not here.

All that dominates my thinking is planning for the next long weekend. I love my business and I love my work but this desire to live outside of that is very, very strong right now. Just like it is every year.

Have I lost focus?

A little while ago I read a book called The Accidental Creative and a big part of that book was about focus. It demonstrates concrete examples of what we do to detract ourselves from concentration and shows us the ways to avoid those detractors. Some of the detractors that come to mind are procrastination and lack of planning; two things that contribute to the potential to distract you from keeping the irons hot (damn, another golfing reference). Both need focus to avoid.

The thing is that I am focussed but maybe not on the things that further my career right now. Personal pursuits instead of career pursuits.

Am I doomed?

Focus was also a big part of the social media conference I attended last week called SocialMix 2012. For those in the blogging world I don’t have to explain what this is and for those that are not, well, let’s suffice it to say these conferences are like (tongue firmly planted in cheek) the Comic-Con of Social Media. Not really, but kind of. There are celebrities mingling with their fans, autographs being signed and general revelry in the crowd. There is also a lot of serious learning to be had, experiences to be shared and a lot of promo for those with something to sell.

Fun all around.

Back to focus my friend.

Focus drives how we produce and at what level; on and off the course. Focus was the central theme of my last blog post; The Art of the Mental Game in reference to golf which, to those who do play the game, takes a ton of focus.

So, why is it so hard to focus in the summer months on things other than fun, personal and family time?

Maybe the question doesn’t really matter.

I think it’s more about what matters to you at the time. As fluid and malleable as it is, time is really on our side. The conscious choice that most people make to slow down is not a bad one. It’s necessary. Like the cycle of life, right?

Or am I just trying to convince myself that I am not just being lazy?

No. Not at all and I am being quite serious about this.

The race to be first is huge.

It drives business and after listening to Gary Vaynerchuk speak at 2 million expletive driven miles an hour about his coming of age story I am convinced he hasn’t recognized a season in many, many years. I have never, in my life, experienced a more driven individual.

Ever.

It must take scads of focus to be as diligent as this guy is with his pursuit of affluence. He was full of fire, his colourful language was peppered with humour, pause and serious amounts of arm waving energy. There was no way to ignore this guy’s confidence. In himself and everything he does.

If you’re not careful some might rub off on you.

If you were there or you have ever heard him speak you know what I mean and if you weren’t or you have no idea who I am talking about check out this video for just a taste of his personality.

Hustle is the most important word. Ever. – Gary Vaynerchuk

So, this is my question is to you all (and to myself).

How driven are you?

Do you have that much fire in your belly that the seasons don’t matter? Do you only think about your next move? Or is some real down time valuable?

A slow groove.

Some reflection.

Or is hustle the most important word?

Ever.

 

 

 

 

About this Author: Ralph Dopping (166 Posts)

A quirky sense-o-humour coupled with an indelible sense of stylish sarcasm makes it difficult to take the world too seriously doesn't it? My faves: fun, passion and hard work. I work here everyday: www.designdialog.ca


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StartYourNovel 38 pts

Watching a video where Vaynerchuck says "Everyone has time -- don't watch f@!#ing Lost" was one of the primary motivators to start a blog of my own. I am not as driven as Gary Vee; few people are. And focus is not the only thing going for him, he clearly loves what he's doing. When your work truly is your life's work, the air that you breathe, then you're going places. That kind of work always feels easy, no matter how hard it really is.

 

Focus, the word, is not as important as 'focus' the action or 'focus' the commitment. Writing a 1,000-word blog post gives me a greater sense of fulfillment than reading 3 novels in 10 days.

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

@StartYourNovel Interesting point of view. To each his own. Life experiences are like that just like Kaarina's comment here. We all look at it differently. Thanks for exposing this idea. It changes the conversation. Jason, right? If not. Sorry. I appreciate you dropping by and thanks fir taking the time to leave a comment.

KDillabough 1824 pts

Much like the question, "what are you doing this weekend?", the "what are you doing this summer?" holds the same response. I don't really distinguish between weekdays and weekends, and the seasons come and go with all the delights they bring. What I'm saying is this: there isn't a slow down period or "time off" period, because I plan each day to focus on what's most important, because as you and the Rolling Stones said, Time is on My Side http://youtu.be/6istBsZxABo

Cheers! Kaarina

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

@KDillabough An interesting point of view. I applaud you for being in a position like that. Many people including me still have obligations to others. I still feel blessed for what I have but am still in a position where the seasons or down time is still a reality of life. I get that it is a mindset for you and I think that's awesome. I plan to be there sometime soon too. Thanks so much for dropping by. Your thoughtful approach is always appreciated. Have a great Victors Day weekend.

bdorman264 2669 pts

I'm in the fine wine stage; I want to savor my moments whether they be in business or pleasure. The fire in my belly is probably more fun driven or cause oriented instead of business driven. I still have plenty of fuel left in the tank, but been there done that; my focus is more on how I can help our corporation grow in other ways.

 

What Gary has you can't teach; you either have it or you don't, I really don't think it is something you can fake and sustain unless you really 'have it.' That's not to say there aren't things you can't learn from him, but I don't think you can duplicate him unless you had that drive in the first place.

 

I coached youth baseball and you could see then who had the talent and who didn't; and who had the drive (for baseball) and who didn't. Just because you cajoled, screamed, or begged with them, it wasn't going to flip on some internal switch to all of a sudden now they were driven to be the best.

 

My parents were not wealthy and I didn't have a lot growing up; I certainly think that had a factor in how much drive I had to succeed. Subsequently, because I did pretty well, my kids never wanted for much. I don't see the same sense of urgency in them to just get after it. They have done well with what they are doing, but I think they are ok, doing ok. And that's ok.........

 

Focus is key, but usually people who are as driven as Gary are sacrificing something in another area. Yes, he is confident, brash, high on himself and speaks the truth, and that works for him, but that's him, not me. 

 

It's funny how similar my latest post is to this.

 

I still say your validation has to come from within and as soon as you can be comfortable in your own skin and your efforts; then life will be good for you. 

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

 bdorman264 I like your post here. I had to go for a break and come back before reading it all. Right you are sir. On all accounts especially the sense that focus and drive mean something different for everyone. You really unearthed something there. Your kids for expample don't have th same drive you do but it will likely be that they find their own. I think that's cool.

 

I agree that Gary V is a unique character but if he can awaken a sleeping giant then he has done his job. I think that's good too. The guy is infectious but I am not, in any way, going to emulate him.

timbo1973 55 pts

Hey Ralph

 

Woah does Gary Vaynerchuk have some fire in his belly.

 

The older I get, the slower the groove.  But, I think the fire is also slowly being ignited though since I gave up doing something I didn't like doing!

 

Now it's coming back, maybe I'll be doing the hustle in no time!

 

Tim

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

 timbo1973 Thanks for stopping here, sir! That's awesome. With everyone's time being so dear I really am honored you chose to read and comment here. I just remembered that old disco classic  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wj23_nDFSfE&feature=player_detailpage Here's to getting that hustle back but i do like the idea that you gave up something in your life that you didn't like. I think that's just as important as the hustle.

TheJackB 2022 pts

Hustle with purpose and intent. That is what I focus on.

My latest conversation: To Be Remembered

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

 TheJackB Fabulous. A man of few words. Very efficient. Good for you. 

Soulati | B2B Social Media Marketing 1794 pts

You're like most of us; me the #mominsummer with suddenlyjamie and others. Our focus is less; our intent is not. It's what you can do and how you put quality before quantity that matters. I'm considering a new post, "Where Have All The Bloggers Gone?"  I see Mark Schaefer wrote a post about how disappointed he was with nothing new at a blogging conference. Have we all hit our wall? Are we now for sure in the echo chamber? V. interesting.

My latest conversation: Blogging For Community Or Clients?

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

 Soulati | B2B Social Media Marketing  suddenlyjamie  Mark Schaefer Yeah. I do wonder where all the bloggers have gone. They are still around. I just think we are all just being human. That and the more generalist we become the more selective we all become too. Besides, the same old same old gets pretty dull just as fast as the echo chamber.

 

I am just wondering if we need to be producing at the rate we are to see some success. That's really all. Because this world is so new there isn't a lot of proven ground and as early adopters do we need to constantly race or is it better to reflect, strategize and plan? I think you answered that and I tend to agree.

suddenlyjamie 106 pts

 rdopping It's nearly 1AM and I'm just wrapping up my days work. "Slow Summer" has not been a reality for me this year. At. All. I need to stay focused in order to deliver. To ship. To not disappoint my clients. 

BUT ... (and it's a big one)

I'm gearing up for a couple of weeks of major slow down AND am considering a social media hiatus to get me through the end of the summer. 

 

I'm all for hustle and hard work, but I also think that it's a mistake to hustle for the sake of hustle. I think that if we can pull back, take the time we need to really see how things are, how we'd like them to go, and how we're going to make it all happen ... well, we wouldn't have to run at such a frantic pace all day every day. 

 

I'm going to be relaunching my Suddenly Marketing brand this fall and slowing down is going to be a big part of my approach and philosophy. Being first might be important, but I also think that being "you" and living a life that lets you HAVE a life are equally as important. 

 

And now - off to bed. 

:) 

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

 suddenlyjamie Thanks for taking the time out of your very busy schedule to stop in here. It is awesome that you can see that reflection is a great way to see what is coming and that there is value in letting some of the water flow under the bridge without having to see it all go by.

 

 Mark_Harai  posted a video on lorigosselin site http://lifeforinstance.com/2012/07/30/are-you-living-the-life-you-expected-to-live/ for TheJackB guest post. Scott Stratten talks about how we keep going and the value we place in the people in our lives. The message at the end has huge impact.

 

Thanks Mark, Jack and Lori for those great thoughts and thanks Jamie fro stopping in. I hope you enjoy your vacation. A hiatus is never a bad thing.

Mark_Harai 707 pts

 rdopping Hey Ralph - hope all is well in Ralph's world : )

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

 Mark_Harai Yep, it is. Thanks for dropping by. I suppose I baited you in...;-)

Mark_Harai 707 pts

 rdopping You can bait me in as often as you like sir... Sorry I can't be here more often; but will always answer your pings : )

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

 Mark_Harai whenever you can come by is good by me. :)

jgrossmann 12 pts

Ralph,

First of all I'm not sure if you were in the car with me this morning but "the traffic is almost non-existent" ... WHAT?

On to more interesting things like your post today.  I personally  have a challenge with balancing the huge amount of fire in my belly with reflection.  I have found that taking a step back to pause and re-examine is always a good thing.  For me, going at warp speed (also flapping my arms around) tends to not be the healthiest thing and may not be sustainable in the long run.  Therefore, if the seasons assist with that why not take advantage of them?

J

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

 jgrossmann Ah, pshaw. That's one street. In general as a commuter (who I was talking to) the traffic is way off and it is the same in the blogging world or so it seems.

 

Using the seasons to reflect sounds like the right course of action for sure. As long as it works for you. I know that drive can get in the way of slowing down but I wonder if it helps to take a breather even if it is looking at things from a different perspective, like from the dock, may tend to spark that drive even more.

 

Thanks for dropping in honey. It's nice to see you in  this space too!

Jens-Petter Berget 91 pts

Hey Ralph,

 

I have enough fire in my belly, but I tend to focus on the things that won't make me much money, that's the things that are not as important in business, even though I love doing them. And no, I'm not talking about Facebook or anything like that. I'm more of a writer, who keeps writing on things that will never get published :)

My latest conversation: Om Berget Marketing

rdopping 1096 pts moderator

 Jens Keep on writing buddy. You will get there and keep this fire lit my friend. You will get there.

Thanks for popping in. Always great to see you here.