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The Studio: Ep1: A new beginning: How does it feel to start over?

When was the last time you started a new job?

We have all been there.

No matter how many times you have done it.

Butterflies.

Every time.

I am not sure why that happens because we all went to school for at least 17-20 years and as each summer wore down we had to prepare ourselves to go back to class.

It seems like a similar thing.

A transition to a new grade, new teachers or professors and new students is something we had to experience over and over each year. Sure, some familiar faces were an advantage but the remainder meant new challenges, new environment and the unknown of what the future holds.

It does sound exciting doesn’t it?

There may have been more nerves during the transitional years to middle school and then high school then to post-secondary. Bigger changes. Little fish in a big pond, per se. I don’t know about you but I was always nervous going back. It’s been such a long time that I hardly remember that feeling but I am sure the butterflies I felt that first day at my new gig were not dissimilar to the feeling I had back then.

Yep, the first day at a new job.

I remember I got to the building early and got a coffee at the local Starbucks. Maybe I shouldn’t have had a coffee. I could really feel that energy buzzing inside of me.

Those butterflies were dancing.

In the pit of my stomach.

Man, after all the negotiation, meeting the principals of the firm and the fact that I knew a few people that work there already it should have been no big deal. Maybe it’s because I am an Interior Designer and I was, for the first time in my career, going to work at a firm that is multidisciplinary. Not just interiors anymore there big boy. It’s not unlike that feeling where you transition from high school to college. You KNOW that you are the new guy. There is no doubt about that. Wet behind the ears becomes a reality and not just a ridiculous old school saying anymore.

I had always scoffed at that. Well, no more. Can you say, BIG LEAUGES now? You got this. You have years of experience under your belt I told myself. No problem.

Coffee was gone.

And it was time.

The studio was bright, modern and open. Sure, I had seen it before but I hadn’t really seen it. It seems to go that way. You look but do you really see? Not until you have to.

At least that’s how it went for me.

The receptionist was friendly, Karen, I thought. Right? Dammit, I have always been bad with names. I know I wouldn’t remember so I would always ask again, feign embarrassment. Whatever. The first day is always killer. You meet, what, two dozen or more people in one day? You can’t be expected to remember them all at the start.

It still feels weird though.

What do you say? Hi, I’m Ralph. This is my first day at school? I have my briefcase and my lunch and my apple? Sheesh.

They know you are coming.

Hopefully.

Sit and wait.

The place is busy already. People coming in. Checking in. Meeting preparation is underway. The phone is ringing.

“Hi. You must be Ralph!” comes a voice from the ether. What? Am I asleep? “Yes!” I jump up from my seat and shake the hand of guy who’s going to influence my future, sign my check and hopefully see the value of what I have to offer.

Can he feel my nerves? Well maybe the handshake, always firm, will dispel any concerns.

“Alex.” He offers, “Nice to see you! Glad to have you onboard. Let’s get you settled in.” He finishes and turns to head into the studio.

First thing in the morning is always an interesting time but when you are the new guy you are so acute to everything around you. People getting their morning coffee, chatting about the past evenings events, discussing plans for the day and generally getting down to it. Getting the day started is such a routine for everyone so the last thing on anyone’s mind is to focus on the new guy.

It’s bright.

That’s one of the things that attracted me to the place. Modern, fresh, new. Bright energy is the general feeling you get from the environment. Bright minds, bright space and great work on the tables and walls. A real working studio. I love the feel of this place. I find my seat in the middle of the open studio and there in front of me are the tricks of the trade.

The first day.

Unpack your personal belongings, set up, find the washroom, meeting people and greeting friends all takes time that seems so precious.

It’s funny to think back about it as I sip my coffee this morning a year and a half into this relationship. It seems like old hat now but got me thinking because we have a new fresh face starting with us today. A new someone named Clare that I will be working with closely.

Change.

It’s inevitable.

From the first day to now so much has transpired, so many personalities to figure out and so much change to the fresh faced new guy that it seems like forever since that day I walked into the studio. Well, it’s been a great ride up to now and we have seen some great progression with our team.

And we are growing. Changing.

I am excited to have Clare as part of the team now and feel like she’s going to be a great fit. Alex really likes here and she interviewed well. Her references are solid and she had a great portfolio of work to show us. A little one sided but there is definitely talent there. Enthusiasm and intelligence go a long, long way. The rest can be taught.

I wonder if she is having the same thoughts that I had on my first day here.

I guess I will find out.

 

 

 

 

Staring something new is exhilarating,huh?

Over to you: How did it feel to start something new to you and do you still have that feeling everyday?

 

About this Author: Ralph Dopping (197 Posts)

A quirky sense-o-humour coupled with an indelible sense of stylish sarcasm makes it difficult to take the world too seriously doesn't it? My faves: fun, passion and hard work. I work here everyday: www.designdialog.ca


23 comments
MatchesMalone
MatchesMalone

According to Ecclesiastes, there is nothing new under the sun. Therefore, I've never started something new, so I don't know what that feeling is.

jonbuscall
jonbuscall

I was recently introduced to the folks in the office over by someone wandering around with a laptop in Hamburg. I wasn't the new hire, but we're working together. I wonder if this was the virtual equivalent of the office introductions. 

Jens-Petter Berget
Jens-Petter Berget

I remember how it feels to be the new guy. I had butterflies every single day for weeks. Now that I've started as a solo entrepreneur I have had butterflies in my stomach every single day. It's like I'm starting from scratch every single day. New clients and new challenges, and it's all about me (and my clients), I used to be one in a crowd of people :) I'm sure Clare will do an excellent job :)

Hajra
Hajra

Welcome Clare...

 

Butterflies definitely. I still how talkative I become on the first day... even the first day at college, at work or anywhere. I just talk so much more on the first day... 

 

bdorman264
bdorman264

Whoa, my last 'first' day on the job at Lanier was May 31, 1983. However, I remember it well and the one almost bump in the road was they didn't have an office for me. I was chomping at the bit however, and ready to go. 

 

I try to keep that in mind as we bring new people on. My youngest is still in the 'interview' process but should know something next week. I'm excited about the possibilities with that. 

 

New years, new semesters, new jobs, new boards; it's always been about what kind of talent pool do they have, what do the girls look like? Not in a creepy way, but I can assure you that never gets old. 

 

Good spotlight at Gini's; well deserved my friend. 

Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes
Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes

Every new job I have had has had those moments. It is exciting but it feels a little strange to be the new guy. That acute awareness you mention is something I am very aware of. It always feels like everyone knows so much and I barely know anything. Even thought I am confident in my skills and abilities and know that I can do the job there is that moment where it feels awkward.

 

Usually doesn't take too long to get past that, but those first few days while you learn the ropes are always butterflies in the stomach time.

Jeevanjacobjohn
Jeevanjacobjohn

Every day is a new day with new challenges (ah, in philosophical terms, every day is something new. But, I don't completely agree with it. There is something new about every day, but most likely I know what's going to happen and when - Like on Mondays and wednesday, I will be doing this at this time). It's not all fixed though (especially, things I can control like my schedule with blogging or studying). I like it to be flexible ;)

 

As with those butterflies ;)

 

Oh, yes. I have had those feelings when I changed from middle school to high (not much, since in India, most schools are combined from elementary to high). But, I have had bigger changes than that, especially because I moved around every 3 years (My dad is a priest, and in our church, the priest has to be rotated every 3 years).

 

That was all a wild experience (now we are staying in the same place, because our church in US does not require us to move around).

 

When I was reading your post, I was also thinking about my first day in college (I am still astonished by the fact that I adapted every quickly. Sure, I had some friends from school over here, but does that make my nervousness to go completely? I doubt that. I think it was all blogging).

 

Yup, blogging has surely helped me to become a better person and develop my communication skills (and increased my confidence with doing things).

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rdopping
rdopping moderator

 @MatchesMalone Ok , smarty-pants. The first time you visit here and you use sarcasm or are you just being philosophical? While there is literally nothing new, YOU, my new friend, may have not tried something as yet thereby it being new for you....see, I am playing along nicely.....and that new thing, that thing you may have never experienced, is what we are talking about here but more importantly, did you like the story?

 

Thank you for your comment. Please come again and regale us with your insight. Happy to have you.

rdopping
rdopping moderator

 @jonbuscall Sounds like it is. How did you feel? Probably a little different than if you were there yourself, huh? Thanks for dropping in. This storyline is just getting started and let's hope it evolves well. You gave me an idea to incorporate the concepts of social media and on-line activity into the story-line. Thank you.

 

Have a great day......:-)

rdopping
rdopping moderator

Hey @Jens-Petter Berget I hope nothing got lost in translation as this post is the start of a storyline that I am developing. Clare is a character and so am I for introducing her. The idea is to use my experiences in the design industry and share them via a story about a designer working in a fictitious studio. It's a way for me to stretch my creative writing and share hopefully relevant management tips and ideas.

rdopping
rdopping moderator

Hi @Hajra is talking more a sign of nerves? I am the exact opposite. I talk a lot less at first. Shy guy. I suppose we would compliment each other that way. Ha. Hope you enjoy your day. We are in Paris, France as I write this on a little vacation.

rdopping
rdopping moderator

Thanks  @timbo1973 I hope your daughter has gotten past the new guy thing and your just back to Dad. The rest is easy, right?

rdopping
rdopping moderator

Thanks  @bdorman264  There's a checklist; Talent - check, nice lookin' ladies - check. Ok, this place will do then. Hilarious.

 

I hope things go well for your son. He's got some shoes to fill that boy!

 

And thanks for the mention at Gini's. That was so much fun. Such a shock when you first go there in am and realize it's you. Too funny, I jumped up from my computer and grabbed my wife........oops, TMI. :-)

 

Thanks for dropping in.

rdopping
rdopping moderator

 @thejoshuawilner There you go. Captured. In a nutshell. Having that awareness helps when the new guy after you shows up. Thanks for dropping by.

rdopping
rdopping moderator

Wow  @Jeevanjacobjohn I am so glad that you can express yourself as you do. I for on would encourage you to work on the blogging and communication. It's great for the soul my friend.

 

One of the benefits of moving around is that you get to experience different places as you are growing up. It is a great time in your life (when you are young) to do that as i would think that it would give you some perspective that most people wouldn't have normally gotten. I have to wonder if your church had the same perspective as it relates to their teachings thereby circulating the priest so the global congregation got different viewpoints.

 

Thanks for the comments. Always interesting. Cheers, Jeevan.

Jens-Petter Berget
Jens-Petter Berget

 @rdopping I really liked the story, but on the other hand, I believe I read it too fast, because I actually thought Clare was a real person :) And, I can relate to the fact that I'm a really shy guy, and I'm always kind of nervous when I meet new people.

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Hajra
Hajra

 @rdopping  @Hajra I think it is.. I am the least shy person around. I just talk and talk and talk all the time. 

 

Paris!  Hope you and your wife have a lovely time! :)

rdopping
rdopping moderator

@Jens-Petter Berget A man's gotta eat. Ask for your money.

Jens-Petter Berget
Jens-Petter Berget

 @rdopping I've been doing a lot of things lately, but one thing that I'm really struggling with is to understand business and getting paid what I'm worth. I love to work and I'm doing my best to help my clients, but it's so hard to ask for money :)

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rdopping
rdopping moderator

That's ok  @Jens-Petter Berget I am just glad you dropped by to read it (fast or not). I am off to see what you have been up to. Cheers bud!

rdopping
rdopping moderator

 @Hajra   Thanks, we are now in Montferratt in the south of France and I am finally reconnected to the internet. Whew!

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