Upset or not, you have a job to do.
We all do regardless of what our situation is. Heck, if you are a stay at home parent you have a job and because of that there will always be a situation that might not be to your liking.
Are you in a management position or are you managed by someone?
If you do or if you are then this list post is for you too.
Even if you are your own boss you will still find this list beneficial. Why? Well, this list is about communication and the last time I checked no one is an island.
We all have clients, colleagues, contractors, consultants and deal with clerks, shop keepers or servers with which we need to communicate every day. As humans we all need to communicate and if we want to simply get by, make friends, keep friends or get from A to B then good communication is a key ingredient of our collective journey.
Sometimes knowing when not to talk is also a form of good communication.
I realized this today when commenting on a friend’s blog. I injected myself into a conversation (as you do) where I discovered quickly that I would have a difficult time articulating my view on a seemingly sensitive subject. I should have simply read the piece and backed away but alas I did not. After a few attempts to communicate my point of view I realized I wasn’t able to articulate myself clearly.
I apologized and then chose to gracefully back away.
Good communication is no laughing matter.
Joking about serious issues has always been my style but in this case that wasn’t the flavour of the piece and in hindsight the best thing I could have done is not written anything at all. I really enjoyed the post and had an opinion on the subject matter but the discussion that ensued wasn’t something that I was clearly understanding or willing to take a stand on.
There was no kidding around today.
Even though the conversation got a little serious no foul language was used and for that I am glad.
That is not always the case in all situations, is it?
There are always those select individuals that tend to use foul language during the course of heated conversation and in most cases I have found that people can get offended by it so I make it a point to refrain from using expletives.
Do you get offended?
Personally, I have heard it all in my day and it doesn’t bother me, however, I think it takes some skill to be articulate in any situation and resorting to the use of expletives simply lacks grace.
Therefore foul language will never be tolerated in this house.
We do, however, realize the critical importance of being able to accurately express your feelings when communicating with people when you are upset or irritated and that’s why we have prepared the following list.
16 new and innovative TRY SAYING THIS INSTEAD phrases.
When you find yourself in a frustrating situation we feel that these phrases will foster the exchange of ideas and information in a much more effective manner.
So, in celebration of good communication here we go:
- TRY SAYING: I think you could use more training.
- INSTEAD OF: You don’t know what the f**k you’re doing.
- TRY SAYING: Perhaps I can work late.
- INSTEAD OF: And when the f**k do you expect me to do this?
- TRY SAYING: I’m certain that isn’t feasible.
- INSTEAD OF: There’s no f**king way.
- TRY SAYING: Really?
- INSTEAD OF: You’ve got to be sh**ting me!
- TRY SAYING: Perhaps you should check with….
- INSTEAD OF: Tell someone who gives a f**k.
- TRY SAYING: I wasn’t involved in the project.
- INSTEAD OF: It’s not my f**king problem.
- TRY SAYING: That’s interesting.
- INSTEAD OF: What the f**k?
- TRY SAYING: I’m not sure this can be implemented.
- INSTEAD OF: This s**t won’t work.
- TRY SAYING: I’ll try to schedule that into today’s activities.
- INSTEAD OF: Why the f**k didn’t you tell me sooner?
- TRY SAYING: He’s not familiar with the issues….
- INSTEAD OF: He’s got his head up his ass.
- TRY SAYING: So you weren’t happy with it?
- INSTEAD OF: Kiss my ass, motherf**ker.
- TRY SAYING: I’m a bit overloaded at the moment.
- INSTEAD OF: F**k it, I’m on salary.
- TRY SAYING: I don’t think you understand.
- INSTEAD OF: Shove it up your ass.
- TRY SAYING: I love a challenge.
- INSTEAD OF: This f**king job is killing me.
- TRY SAYING: You want me to take care of that?
- INSTEAD OF: Who the f**k died and made you boss?
- TRY SAYING: He’s somewhat insensitive.
- INSTEAD OF: He’s a f**king prick.
So, there you have it. What better way can there be to get your point across than being nice, respectful and cordial even if you are thinking about tearing someone a new one. Have a glorious day my friends and remember good communication is the key to a happy fruitful life and career.
Over to you:
What’s your favourite way of dealing with that annoying or difficult situation that you can’t seem to understand?