A little while ago I had a moment where I was upset with a friend for stepping into a personal issue I was having. I won’t regale you with the gory details. Suffice it to say that my anger boiled over because I don’t like to be told what to do. I never react negatively to criticism or direction in a business environment so this was a rare occasion for me.
The issue was exacerbated by my friend (who was actually trying to help) when suggesting that I approach the issue in a particular way.
I don’t know about you but when dealing with a personal issue I really don’t like unsolicited advice. If I ask for it, sure, bring it!
Otherwise, no thank you!
My reaction, in the moment, was not one of my finest. Afterward, I actually felt I deserved an apology from my friend for sticking their nose into my business.
At any rate, I came to my senses and took responsibility for the entire incident. It was my fault after all. If I hadn’t reacted the way I did no one would have been affected.
After a few weeks, I apologized. Yep, a few weeks.
It was hard to suck it up. My ego was really battling me for control but I beat that sucker down. In the famous words of you QOTW guest, “I think you better quit talkin’ that bull….”
What did I learn?
I learned that even though I know what to do common sense doesn’t always prevail. In my work life I know better. The design world is fraught with opposing opinions and ego driven decisions. As a team member, regardless of my position, I have always been cool, been able to think before reacting and removed myself from a confrontation if I didn’t think I could handle the heat. This situation was no worse than anything I have dealt with in business. It was perplexing.
I truly felt bad that I let my ego get in between me and a close friend.
It did work out though.
My friend feels better that I came clean and I do as well. One less bag to carry. The way airlines are charging for luggage these days it’s a good thing I jettisoned that one.
Oh, we are still friends, of course. Whew!
That brings us to today’s quote.
Whatever happened to Fred Durst? It’s more like, what happened to me? Have I passed the alt rock phase of my life? Naaaaa, but as far as I know he’s still got it. Don’t 1.5mil followers on twitter mean something? Huh? Who knows but the 4 people he follows surely must feel special though. I was never cool enough to know what a LimpBizkit was anyway. Or maybe I didn’t care. I did love the music and maybe it has had its day? I can only imagine the humbling nature of the rise and fall of popularity. In response to an interview last year about his band, Fred said, “We were a moment in time and it’s over.” Somehow, that comment and the following quote seemed fitting this week.
If that doesn’t brighten your day then maybe this will.
What did the Zen Buddist say to the hot dog vendor? “Make me one with everything.”
Have a great Monday and an awesome week.
If you want to read last week’s quote simply click here.